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The Power of Listening

People will rarely remember your advice, but they will always remember that you listened.
Cara Lawrence

Sometimes the greatest sermon is silence. A suffering person does not need a lecture – he needs a listener.
Billy Graham

One of the best ways to build trust is by deep listening. It’s the most powerful dynamic of human interaction when people feel they’re being heard. Listening doesn’t mean agreeing, but it does mean having the empathic reach to understand another.
Warren Bennis

The greatest compliment that was ever paid me was when someone asked me what I thought, and attended to my answer.
Henry David Thoreau

Bend from the lofty perch of your own disciplines and listen with regard to disciplines not your own. If you are an engineer, listen to the artist; if you are a physicist, listen to the philosopher; if you are a logician, listen to the religionist; and especially if you are in a position of power, listen, listen.
Chaim Potok

The Importance of Fathers

What a father says to his children is not heard by the world, but it will be heard by posterity.
Jean Paul Richter

I believe that what we become depends on what our fathers teach us at odd moments, when they aren’t trying to teach us.
Umberto Eco

If mothers would understand that much of their importance lies in building up the father image for the child, the children would turn out well.
Samuel Liebowitz

A father is neither an anchor to hold us back, nor a sail to take us there, but a guiding light whose love shows us the way.
George Douglas

When I was a child I loved to watch my father shave. I sat on the closed toilet seat and marveled at the sound of the razor gliding over his face, pushing aside the foamy soap like a shovel in the snow. I adored him, this grand figure who slapped lotion on his cheeks every morning, buttoned his clean white shirt and hugged me good-bye.
Marlo Thomas

Persuading Others

If you would win a man to your cause, first convince him that you are his sincere friend.
Abraham Lincoln

One strong point is worth ten weak ones.
Jewish proverb

Telling people the reason why you are doing something has a major influence on how they react to you because more often than not, people willingly comply with requests when given reasons why they should.
Nicholas Boothman

Would you persuade, speak of interest, not of reason.
Benjamin Franklin

When you want to bring someone else to your point of view and you are 180 degrees apart, the best thing to do is listen. The more you listen, the greater your chances become of finding out where the other person is coming from and possibly uncovering areas of agreement between the two of you.
Robert Dedman


The art of listening is looking at someone when he or she speaks to you, not over his or her shoulder at who else might be in the room.
Rick Pitino

The best leaders are often the best listeners and the most open to new ideas.
Pat Riley

Real listening means taking some radical steps. Like putting the newspaper down. Or turning off the tube. It means leaning forward a little. If the speaker is little, it may mean getting down on your knees.
Gary Smalley and John Trent

Old people love to have somebody listen to them. To listen, when nobody else wants to listen, is a very beautiful thing.
Mother Teresa

Many of the problems I hear don’t require me to offer solutions. I solve most of them by just listening and letting the grieving party do the talking. If I listen long enough, the person will generally come up with an adequate solution.
Mary Kay Ash

Great Fathers

My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person – he believed in me.
Jim Valvano

I learned more listening to my father around the dinner table than in four years of college.

Everybody knows that fatherhood reveals your limitations. But less well known is that, now and then, fatherhood also brings out skills that might well have gone undiscovered were it not for having kids.
Hugh O’Neill

The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.
Theodore Hesburgh

The most productive fathering time of your day may be the five minutes you stop along your route home, close your eyes and determine your family agenda for the evening – especially your first 30 minutes.
Paul Lewis

Effective Communication

The success of conversation consists less in being witty than in bringing out wit in others; the man who leaves after talking with you, pleased with himself and his own wit, is perfectly pleased with you.
Jean de La Bruyére

Look a person in the eye when you talk to him – that shows you’re serious and you care.
Yogi Berra

The person who does the most talking and the person who is the most successful are rarely the same person. Almost without exception, the more successful the person, the more he practices conversation generosity, that is, he encourages the other person to talk about himself, his views, his accomplishments, his family, his job, his problems.
David Schwartz

When another speaks, be attentive yourself, and disturb not the audience. If any hesitate in his words, help him not, nor prompt him without being desired; interrupt him not, nor answer him till his speech be ended.
George Washington

General Eisenhower and I didn’t discuss politics or the campaign. Mostly we talked about painting and fishing. But what I remember most about the hour and half I spent with him was the way he gave me all his attention. He was listening to me and talking to me, just as if he hadn’t a care in the world, hadn’t been through the trials of a political convention, wasn’t on the brink of a presidential campaign.
Norman Rockwell

Listening to Your Children

Our children will learn very quickly whether or not we are willing to listen to them. If we continually push them away with their “minor” concerns, they may not come to us with a bigger issue.
Ken Canfield

The more a child becomes aware of a father’s willingness to listen, the more a father will begin to hear.
Gordon MacDonald

Making sure that your children see that they are being heard is extremely important in ensuring you too will be heard. Bottom line: You have to listen to be heard. Children don’t tune into the messages of their parents unless they believe that their parents truly hear and understand their concerns and needs.
Phillip McGraw

Resolve to genuinely listen and treat your child and his or her point of view with dignity and respect. Turning off the television, stopping other activities and giving your child your unhurried and undivided attention speaks volumes to your child about how important he or she really is.
Phillip McGraw

Real listening means letting your eyes light up. Raising your eyebrows. Expressing your interest verbally once in awhile. “Oh, WOW! Unbelievable! Is that right? Are you kidding? How about that.” Kids will tend to keep talking about a subject if they see someone is actually listening to them. They will also feel honored, valued and warmed down to their toes.
Gary Smalley and John Trent